Please don’t hesitate to seek advice from friends or acquaintances when trying to solve personal problems. Each problem usually has two options for its solution. I’d appreciate it if you could weigh the pros and cons of each side carefully and decide which is the most advantageous solution for you, as the outcome of your decision. Your decision, according to what you need, is always the best decision and, therefore, the best for you. Someone else’s opinion of the solution is usually based on their outlook, which is conditioned by their experiences and thus may be entirely out of place for the solution to your problem.
Do not depend on others to do your duties and jobs for you; thus, meet the obligations that are yours and yours alone. Depending on others for such and similar favours will make you feel obliged all the time. Therefore, you never truly feel free with the freedom that comes only with total independence and complete self-reliance.
Do not borrow from others! It is best to buy your things or do without rather than live on borrowed money, goods and property that you don’t know. You never own! Whilst honestly acquired possessions make you feel good, as they have been earned and therefore deserved!
Avoid borrowing tools, gadgets, and other items. Above all, never borrow money from friends, as this can lead to the end of a friendship. If you must borrow an item in an emergency, please return it promptly and in good condition. Otherwise, repeating such neglect will meet with resentment and may result in your friends’ loss of respect for you.
When you receive favours from someone else, you may be taken advantage of. Please make sure that you repay the favour with an equal one, such as a helpful gift, as this is the first thing you incurred.
It is advisable to develop independent habits as a trait of one’s personality. It strengthens the personality and earns more tremendous admiration and respect compared to someone who is constantly dependent on others. Thus, someone who is constantly dependent on others gives the impression of a total absence of a “self” to rely on, which usually also results in a slothful, uncaring person drifting along—whichever way the wind blows-a breeze without direction and purpose.
Self-reliance is like a fortress within you, something to depend on and hold onto. And gain strength from meaning and purpose in one’s own life. It also helps increase confidence and self-assurance in one’s demeanour and in one’s decisions and consequent actions.
Remember that everything in life {and our associations with others} has its price. Pay as you go, or do not incur “debts” because one way or another- sooner or later, you pay the price!
People who always serve you in some way or another soon tend to run your life and sometimes can give you the feeling that they own you! It is best to be free and stand on one’s own two feet in every respect rather than be enslaved through habitual dependence on others!
Author: Yolanda A. Eden
(1928 – 2018}
Edited by: Julie K. Eden